Buy Me A Gift On Your Return

The preparations involved in traveling overseas is arduous. A number of students after going through the hurdle to secure a visa, pay for their flight and many other traveling essentials, are met with one task; “buy me something when you’re coming back o”.

A few years ago, my classmates and I travelled to China. In my school, we had financial obligations such as paying for our electricity, feeding ourselves, buying stationery, and many other financial obligations we had to meet.

Some of us received monthly allowances, but charle, we had plans to save and bring a lot of money back home. We had to enjoy our stay too because our time was limited. We had just one academic year to make all our plans a success.

I’ve always seen and heard some people lament about how it seems their friends and family oblige them to get them a gift or two on their return from a trip.

About a few months to return to Ghana, I realized I couldn’t get for everyone what they demanded of me. I had a loooong list. And I kept getting reminders too, one text message will read, “if you don’t buy me something don’t return o” or “abi iPhones are cheaper in China, buy me one as a gift eerh”. Another will say, make sure you get me something o” or “Your shoes look good, buy me one please.”  I perceived some of the requests as jokes until they got persistent. Some people sent reminders anytime they got the opportunity to send you a message. Interestingly, most of my friends encountered similar situations and requests. It seemed as though all our missing ‘friends and family’ finally found us.

One evening, as our return date was getting closer, I sat on my bed, thinking “so couldn’t all these people have given me a tangible gift when I was preparing to travel”? Or patiently wait for my arrival and accept any gift I got for them if I did?  Why do others expect expensive gifts from people who travel away from home?

The situation is not different for people who travel within Ghana. In a recent conversation with a friend, he was lamenting about how he has decided to stay in Accra for long because traveling back home in the full glare of “friends and family” will cost him a fortune.

Most people assume riches and everything pleasant is attached to the voyager, but no! At least not in my case and that of my classmates.

So the next time you hear the news of a friend coming back home, kindly wish them a safe journey and keep your expectations as low as possible!

This Post Has 24 Comments

  1. Dorcas

    Sooo true. Interesting. God bless you sis.

    1. akorfa

      Thank you Sis! God bless you too!

  2. Energy

    You hit the nail right at the head….. And you gave me this to read at the very rigt time in the most appropriate context…. But my family is better I think. They said “whatever you have to offer” after all you need to pay your school fees😂😂

    1. akorfa

      I understand how you’re feeling now 😀The irony is that, my family did not demand any gifts from me but friends did😀😀😀

  3. Tina

    Nice piece.I particularly love the last line “kindly wish them a safe journey and keep your expectations as low as possible!”

    1. akorfa

      Thank you! Thank you! Hahaha! Glad you loved it. I love it too!

  4. Maud

    Hahaha… Akorfa!! You couldn’t have said it any better!!

    1. akorfa

      Hahaha… Thank you Maud!

  5. Mona

    Good stuff and very true

    1. akorfa

      Thank you!

  6. Nana Botsio

    Soo on point. Keep it up💯

    1. akorfa

      Thank you so much!

  7. Anonymous

    Very interesting.

  8. Victoria

    Haha. Nice piece Akorfa
    I couldn’t agree more
    Thank you!❤

    1. akorfa

      Thank you Victoria!

    1. akorfa

      Thank you for reading

  9. Makay

    Just on point. I remember the stress so vividly. Thanks for sharing this and hope people learn to keep their expectations low

    1. akorfa

      I’m glad I shared this and I hope more people learn to keep their expectations low.

  10. Nana Assibey

    Haha. Interesting!

    1. akorfa

      Hahaha… Thank you Nana!

  11. Anonymous

    Wonderful piece

    1. akorfa

      Thank you so much!

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